Arranged marriage is better than love marriage

Arranged marriage is better than love marriage

The most convincing reason that proves arranged marriages is better than Love marriages would be Statistics! In most cases, couples who had an arranged marriage are more understanding towards each other.

For
  • In an arranged marriage, first few years of the marriage are spent in knowing and understanding the person. There is a sense and demand of spending more time with each other.
  • In a love marriage, before the marriage, the couple shares a very different level of understanding. This understanding when tied to social obligations expected once married, are difficult to obey.
  • It is easy to adjust with the partner in an arranged marriage as compared to love marriage. This is because in a love marriage things may often be taken for granted.
  • Since the partners have never met before, in an arranged marriage, they care more about each others needs.
  • Arranged marriages help resolves domestic issues faster. There is a sense of fear of loosing the partner.
  • For some unforeseen reason, the marriage does not work; there are many people who will support more.
  • In most cases, love marriages force the couple to stay away from family. This leaves them with no choice but to tackle their own problems.
Against
  • In today’s busy lives no one has the time to understand each other after marriage.
  • Arranged marriage, most of the times works on compromises. In a love marriage they were in love even before the marriage and hence compromises are less.
  • In an arranged marriage, social obligations can get frustrating at times.
  • Love married couples learn how to become independent since most of the times they are separated and hence are able to tackle their problems.
  • A comfort level has already been developed between the couple.
  • Expectations from parents are less since most of the times decision of marrying is usually initiated by the couple.
  • Whether it is love or arranged, trust, understanding and commitment is what drives towards a successful marriage.

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Arranged marriage better than love marriage
# the parents to not take care after the love marriage because that living person feel #other relatives helps to not taking#
Adaikalam 10-29-2015
Arranged Marriage Vs Love Marriage
Arranged marriages are not always bad.

Does love last longer in arranged marriages?

Another factor that contributes to the success of arranged marriages is the fact that matchmaking is fairly objective in terms of ensuring that the bride and the groom are well matched in economic and social standing. Invariably, people falling in love also happen to choose partners with a similar personality, background and attitude!

Dr. Robert Epstein from Harvard has studied the subject of arranged marriages for eight years, that focused on arranged marriage practices among Indian, Pakistani and Orthodox Jewish communities. Here is an extract from The Daily Mail UK that talks about the findings of Dr. Robert Epstein.

He has interviewed more than 100 couples in arranged marriages to assess their strength of feeling and studied his findings against more than 30 years of research into love in Western and arranged marriages.

His work suggests that feelings of love in love matches begin to fade by as much as a half in 18 months, whereas the love in the arranged marriages tends to grow gradually, surpassing the love in the unarranged marriages at about the five-year mark.

Ten years on, the affection felt by those in arranged marriages is typically twice as strong.

Dr Epstein believes this is because Westerners leave their love lives to chance, or fate, often confusing love with lust, whereas those in other cultures look for more than just passion.

I really love this quote from Dr. Epstein - "The idea is we must not leave our love lives to chance. We plan our education, our careers and our finances, but we’re still uncomfortable with the idea that we should plan our love lives. I do not advocate arranged marriages, but I think a lot can be learned from them.”

I Believe in Choice

I believe in the strengths of arranged marriage process, namely the commitment and the involvement of the families in ensuring a successful match. However, I do not endorse forced marriages and the concept of "husband is God" no matter what he does. According to the 2014 UNFPA Survey , as women's education levels increase in countries like India, the proportion of women meeting their husbands before marriage is increasing.This does not necessarily mean love marriages but rather indicate free choice in selecting a husband. I believe this is a good sign.

In fact, I recently started a company called www.jodilogik.com just to provide an opportunity for young men and women to exercise choice and not base their marriages (even when arranged) just on what parents might consider important.
Srinivas 10-7-2015
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neither i prefer for love nor arrange i just wanted to have successful marriage, according to me both love and arrange marriage is risky, in love marriage we cant exactly say that how the person was before, will be having the same thinking as after the marriage...both marriage require trust, understanding and commitment
naj 08-27-2015
love marriage vs arrange marriage
you told absolutely right,love marriage is best
rehatha 08-20-2015
love marriage vs arrange marriage
According to me, love marriage is better than arrange marriage because before marriage both couple knowing to each other which means "The understanding". It's give you the freedom to take any action about their life's. There is a certain bonding to each other which didn't create any kind of misunderstanding. So love says made for each other.
Om prakash samantroy 08-9-2015
Love Marriage is Better Than Arrange Marriage
In my Point of view, love marriage is best.In love marriage we Can select the best Partner for our life,We can understand each other fully before get marriage.But in arrange Marriage Its difficult to select our better life partner,becos after marriage only they can understand each other. More over, Arrange marriage demands , a dowri.In love marraige its a benefit.Love marriage Wouldnt expect any dowri, they expect only love til their life end.
Love marriage gives a confident to survive our life without anyone help.They can tackle our problems their self easily.The main thing in love marriage is ,it cant see the caste at all. But in Arrange Marriage it expects the caste,status, Assets..But love marriage it expects only a good life partner.Its gives a self confident , and how to manage in difficult situations.Comparing with arrange marriage love is best in all the sides.
jansi 03-9-2015
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Arrange marriage is better tha love marage both of these have prones and cones..but i prefer arrange marage.
wasim raja 03-7-2015
Don't fall for Love marriage.
I have already been facing that trauma of love marriage. We have dated for couple of years, then eloped. But she did'nt mentioned to me about her mental problem before. She becomes mentally unstable sometimes and eat as hell. My bank account is depleting and i have nowhere to complain my parents kicked me out when we returned to my home with her. Even her parents don't want to take her back.
Sulaiman Siddique 07-22-2013
love marriage is better than arranged marriage
Love marriage is a better option than arranged marriage....marriage is actually a bond between two people... it needs trust,understanding and commitment...love marriage gives a wide scope of knowing each other,to understand each other...which lacks in arranged marriage....this is a case where they are bound to adjust with each other even though they are not liking each other...it is actually imposing one over another...albeit this is not always the same case ...but it is quite common.....so love marriage is much better than arranged marriage.....
arnabi 03-27-2013
love marriage.......
lover marriage gives the couple the freedom to speak out what they feeling, as in case of arrange marriages the two have to understand each other and if they fail in doing so, it may ruin their whole marriage life,........

love marriage has the benefit, because the two already know each other and understands their partner's feeling wellllll
suresh devtulya 02-24-2013
arrenged marriage
In an arranged marriage, first few years of the marriage are spent in knowing and understanding the person. There is a sense and demand of spending more time with each other.Arranged marriage, most of the times works on compromises. In a love marriage they were in love even before the marriage and hence compromises are less.
Narendrareddy 10-23-2012
Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage?
At the onset, I believe that the term ‘love marriage’ is a misnomer – is it that arranged marriages are devoid of love? Of course not! In fact, all marriages are an ‘arrangement’ between two people, with a promise to ‘love’... [Read more at - http://mindmattersindia.com/love-marriage-or-arranged-marriage/]
Anoop 10-19-2012
Thanx
Thanx alot. It was very helpful...
Anuprita 10-6-2012
Group Discussion- Arranged marriage is better than love marriage
Love marriage is better than arrange marriage. Arrange marriage over a period of time becomes a burden on the couple whereas in love marriage the bond grows stronger as they already understand each other. A couple can live an independent life in love marriage but there are many restrictions, both social and economical in arrange marriage. Love marriage has very less or no complications as there is already a comfort level present between the couple.
Hemant Sharma 01-7-2012
Group Discussion - Love marriage: Arranged marriage
With fall in the ratio of girls to boys and increase in the requirements girls put across while choosing their life partners, it is becoming increasingly difficult for parents to find a suitable match for their sons.

In many families, parents have given their children liberty to choose their partners. This itself is an advocate for love marriage.
Mahesh Deshmukh 11-8-2011