Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal

Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal


In the ever-changing world, the one thing that people still can’t accept openly is losing the virginity before marriage. It is a sensitive topic especially in the regions where people are more attached with their culture and values. It is true for the countries like India where even love marriages or live in relationships are not accepted easily. Even the teenagers especially girls consider it to be big and cathartic event of life. The matter gets really serious and intense at times. Are you one of those people? Do you really thing losing virginity before marriage is a big deal?

Yes

• In this world, every that thing that cannot be regained after it’s lost is considered as invaluable and precious.

• Virginity is not about sharing a physical relationship with other but it is more about sharing trust and belongingness with other.

• The first time early mistakes done in the teenage can prove costly for lifetime. Sometimes damages are irreversible.

• In the country like India where women are considered as God, virginity becomes a certificate of character for them.

• When it comes to girls, it doesn’t get over in a short time but leads to deeper emotional consequences afterwards.

No

• People have a habit to make haste out of waste, and when something has to happen at sometime, then why to make a fuss out of it.

• Getting intimate with any person is a matter of choice and cannot be confined to the defined limits.

• Character cannot be judged on the basis of virginity. If that had been the case, most of the guys should be proved characterless.

• Whenever virginity is talked about it is confined to women, if men are not bounded with the terms, why should women be?

• Virginity has nothing to do with the long term relationships or commitment. If it had been the case, most of the arranged marriages must have been successful.

Conclusion

Since ages, people are following the concept that virginity is the gift from the two partners after their marriage. However, in the present world, the concept is changing. It is more of a personal preference and choice what the partners want. The only thing is that the decision should be made with due consideration. In any case, it should not hinder the happiness and peace of your life.
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  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Dinesh (11/25/17)
  • This article has overlooked many factors and lacks reality at many points. Examole -if virginity is proof of character then all men will be characterless.
    1 st of all if a men is having sex with a girl that means a girl is also involved so 1 boy or 1 charecterless boy and. 1 characterless girl(hypothetically) are involved.

    2. Men is a sexual animal. He by nature is seed giver naturaally a womens time to get pregnant is 30s while men doesnt have any such time. Men involves imto sex for phsical need. While a womrn gets involved for multipule reason .the bond tp very strongly.
    They have chances of pregnancy and acc to new research they carry dna of their past sexual partners. That is why yo keep women emotionally and physically safe some rules were made coz men will try to manipulate and have sex its their primary need biologically . that why women are advised not to get involeved before marriage. And most of the breakups are mor3 painfull coz sex was involved
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Ram (06/22/16)
  • I think it depends on situation. Virginity of a woman is not a symbol of purity but a symbol of loyalty towards her husband. Loosing virginity is the first sexual(vaginal) encounter of a woman with a man or vice versa. Well it can happen at anytime, mostly during a sexual assault in Eastern countries and a hook up in Western nations. I don't think the loss of virginity plays a major role in a successful marriage. However, women should avoid casual sex as they are not designed to have sex with any man like a man. It is because when woman involves in an orgasmic sex with a wrong man, then she feels attached to the man because of a love hormone oxytocin which is released during orgasm. Men however don't get attached to women due to lack of oxytocin. So if a woman enjoys casual sex, then she becomes less marriageable as no man will ever satisfy her sexual needs. So a virgin women or a women who prefer long term relationships are always suitable for marriage.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Aleya (03/29/16)
  • Though virginity is a very private matter but it vibrates our mind when it comes to marriage.No doubt it is a very very precious thing which must need to be preserved only for that particular person whom we trust the most i.e our life partner.
    But in my perspective nowadays the most burning reason for almost all the breakups ,divorces is TRUST.This is the only thing matters to sustain a happy ,prosperous married life.We can not judge someone by the tag 'virginity' .Truth must be spoken as early as possible but strictly before marriage cause truth has the strength to make up all the mistakes .We have to consider in which circumstance he /she has loosen their virginity,may be she has been molested and raped by masked so called jerk human beings ,or may be he/she was in love madly deeply,who them or may be its his/her own will.Truth must be spoken.Not to hide anything you are going to spend your whole life.
    There are plenty of cheep fake people are wandering around us who may switch her/his partner after marriage being greedy of money ,fame etc.
    If we select a non-virgin but trustworthy ,original person instead of a virgin ,traitor person , certainly they will live their happiest life without all anxieties.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -megha krishnawat (02/21/16)
  • For every person who says yes to this:
    Every girl faces some kind of sexual misbehaviour in their life from their childhod to teenage...Who does this?so males(boys or adults) i think if one wants their wife to be a virgin..then he should behave himself.I m talking to each male person in this world. you protect your mothers and sisters...you take oaths for protecting your sisters on some festivals(raksha bandhan and bhaiyya duj) .Are you applying the same rule to your girlfriends,classmates,neighbours or any other girl.
    Who is responsible for rape cases?
    Who are boys to judge whether a girl is characterless or not?
    At first boys shuld learn to behave themselves then expecting anything from a young girl...
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Sethuraman (11/22/15)
  • Yes it is,let me justify it why..as a guy/girl u would have expectation abt your would be(salary,job,height weight etc..),if that expectation is with regard to virginity that's nothing wrong,People who say losing virginity is not a big deal,I am completely with you PROVIDED you DON'T LIE ABOUT YOUR PAST when asked about your previous relationship's,stuffs that are too personal for you may be some one else's priority,I am not talking abt a tissue called hymen am talking abt human emotions,So when ur expectations are not met u can very well call it a cheating because you are emotionally let down,If u made a decision in your life stand up for it instead of cowardly denying it,so to summarize it losing virginity may not be a big deal for some,But calling your would be a hypocrite just because his/her expectation is not modern is height of hypocracy,After all every one of us here have expectation's ! GROW UP !
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Purva banthiya (09/29/15)
  • Well obviously loosing virginity before marriage is not a sign that uh are characterless.It certainely depends upon ur circumstances and ur physical requirements.The only condition is before entering into a relationship especially in terms of marriage one should make things clear crystal.So that it need give rise to any tussle later.and when it comes to trust and
    love..once things are clear..everything will go smoothly.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -atanu dey (09/28/15)
  • in my point of view losing virginity is not a big deal....because every people are not meant for having sex with their partner but they may had some emotional content.....i dont think that its a big deal for boys so why girls r suspected in terms of their virginity.....character has nothing to do with virginity.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -SWATI GUPTA (09/17/15)
  • I would like to raise few things... We say we are secular. We don't believe in gender discrimination. We say we are unite. In fact our legal mandates prohibit gender discrimination. Art 14 of Constitution says all are equal before law. I have read over all the articles. People are saying we treat women as a goddess. some of said, in our Indian culture women are treated as a god so they should think before losing virginity.
    After reading this i am shocked that once a man rape a girl that time he never thinks that he is raping a god, even when women are becoming subject to domestic violence then they are not a god figure or when we forced women for child marriage or we forced them to prostitution when women become subject to harassment at workplace at home then why we don't treat them as a god. then how we trend to forget our Indian culture. here people are remembering that our Indian culture does not permit women to loose their virginity because they are given a status of a god. we should also remember that in ancient India women were given a royal treatment. they were having a right to study what they wanted to, to choose their life partner, equal participation in work field. now in 21 century things have been changed. women position in India is getting deteriorated and they are subject to every cruelty. then why we forget that women are still in a position of a god. first treat a women like a god. respect her, give her a freedom to think, to live, to work, to speak.

    we do talk about unity , we say we don't believe in gender Discrimination but once its a debate of virginity before marriage or on a character then why always women before subject to repercussion, why not boys. once all are equal then boys also should take care of there virginity. today we are in a 21 century and women are self independent. if you need a certificate of our virginity then we request you to prove that you are a man of versatile character then raise your alarms

    Draupadi married to a five man, she was treated as one of the most respectful women in Indian history. I would suggest all the people of country that character of women is not subject to her virginity. character is a virtue and it is evaluated through person's act and deeds. Please don't involve Indian culture in it because Indian culture does not permit you to rape a women, disrespect her, harass her, beat her, burn her. stop putting lame ideas just to prove a women characterless.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Sangram (08/25/15)
  • Firstly I think if one falls in love with someone and they attain a stage of maturity in their relation & if they get physical i don't think there is a big deal in this.

    Secondly if the girl who is in love loses her virginity but marries the same guy then i don't think it is a big deal.

    Concluding i think this is the question of personal choice n people should not judge the girl/s on these basis as this is not the certificate of character. . . !!
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Ankit (08/23/15)
  • I think that all of us are thinking right to our own aspects ..but the thing is that instead of considering this fact of whether losing virginity before marriage is a big deal or not ,we should consider the situation..we all are just very tend to talk and start giving our opinions on various matters but just besides talking about it and giving it a certificate of bad character, we should not forget that there may come situations in every person's life when one unknowingly may commit a mistake ..but it doesn't that he can never overcome of this ..we all should be given an environment where REGRETING about some mistake is possible..it should be accepted by the society..nor a person should be made to feel shame and sorry for ever commited mistake..

    Finally I want to say that "Sometimes the person who ever passed into darkness would be the person who can better understand the importance of LIGHT"..so instead of making it a big issue one must ensure that the mistake will not be repeated ..one must never forget the lessons learn from one's past .
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Ankit (08/23/15)
  • I think that all of us are thinking right to our own aspects ..but the thing is that instead of considering this fact of whether losing virginity before marriage is a big deal or not ,we should consider the situation..we all are just very tend to talk and start giving our opinions on various matters but just besides talking about it and giving it a certificate of bad character, we should not forget that there may come situations in every person's life when one unknowingly may commit a mistake ..but it doesn't that he can never overcome of this ..we all should be given an environment where REGRETING about some mistake is possible..it should be accepted by the society..nor a person should be made to feel shame and sorry for ever commited mistake..

    Finally I want to say that "Sometimes the person who ever passed into darkness would be the person who can better understand the importance of LIGHT"..so instead of making it a big issue one must ensure that the mistake will not be repeated ..one must never forget the lessons learn from one's past .
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Praval (07/31/15)
  • As I think It is a big deal but we can not relate it with the character of that particular girl. Virginity is not a standard of measuring someone. As in Indian society some people make it as a measure of character. For those people it doesnt care what was the reason and what was the circumstances that make the girl losses her virginity. For them it is easy to put their views whether this girl is good or characterless by knowing that she is virgin or not.
    Conclusion->
    We can not predict someone on the basis of their virginity. Our society has to change their mentality. Because virginity does not assures a successful relationship.and a girl who is not virgin can become a good partner for the rest of the life
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Aamir malik (07/30/15)
  • I would like to ask a question from the boys who says losing verginity before mrrg is nt a big deal nd its a thinking of narrowminded people.
    If a girl lose verginity would u marry her???
    I think u should not because every one need a girl who nt make any ohysical relationship wd other before mrrg.

    So girls also think about this nd should nt lose their verginity before mrrg by themself in other cases like raped can be tolarated by society but wd their choice no one can accpt u.
    the gays who says this is right so if ur sis goes to lose verginity wd her choice so what u thnk nd what u do if u came to know this so its a big deal to kose verginity before mrrg.
    But there is one more think if a girl lose verginity so wd her a boy akso lose her verginity so why always we qus about girls verginity why nt boys???
    This is the big question can anyone ans this to me or the whole world
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -LILENDAR (07/29/15)
  • In my opinion i would say like ya its a big deal, as once get caught by our parents who suppose it as a bad character wont forgive easily.also i thing we dont have proper knowledge about sex education so if any mistake happens during the process we may land up in problem .
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Avinash sharma (07/29/15)
  • in my view ,it is not a problem. Virginty problem is depends only on our engaged partner how he would take it. because u have to live with him not with others.so before marry tell him about you virginity and if he break the marrige due to this reason.....thank to god .God saved u...:P
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Sagar Pawar (07/29/15)
  • According to me losing virginity before marriage is personnel thing i think it depends on the person. Now a days it is not a big deal to lose virginity before marriage. One can not define character of the person on virginity. so better to keep both thing different. And about gaining trust of partner virginity is not the criteria.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Monika (07/29/15)
  • Losing virginity in India is a curse .Such people are no considered part o the society as they have lost an eseential element of their upgrowing life.Having disposition towards oder person may lead to premature sex and even sexual harassment can be proven perilous coz these ultimately leads to lose in virginity.Society condemns such people as vulgar and deny their involvement in auspicious ceremonies.But in my view losing virginity should not be considered as loss in character as they are different side of the same coin .Such people should be revered for their attitude and behaviour inspite of this issue.People need to broaden their mentality and think from the different perspective.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Trapti (07/28/15)
  • Why always husband asked to her wife she is vergin or not,why always question arises for girls virginity, why girls do not asked diz question bcz for them love do matters not virginity. If you love someone you do not asked diz silly question. I think if someone whom you love asked diz question, do not deserve u.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Trapti (07/28/15)
  • Why always husband asked to her wife she is vergin or not,why always question arises for girls virginity, why girls do not asked diz question bcz for them love do matters not virginity. If you love someone you do not asked diz silly question. I think if someone whom you love asked diz question, do not deserve u.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Trapti (07/28/15)
  • Why always husband asked to her wife she is vergin or not,why always question arises for girls virginity, why girls do not asked diz question bcz for them love do matters not virginity. If you love someone you do not asked diz silly question. I think if someone whom you love asked diz question, do not deserve u.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Trapti (07/28/15)
  • Why always husband asked to her wife she is vergin or not,why always question arises for girls virginity, why girls do not asked diz question bcz for them love do matters not virginity. If you love someone you do not asked diz silly question. I think if someone whom you love asked diz question, do not deserve u.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -sakshi (07/27/15)
  • Why is everyone only talking about a girl here..??
    What about a guy's virginity..no views on that..!!
    Why is only a girl subjected to such standards of virginity.
    How come the guys who are the reason for the girl losing her virginity are the ones who want virgin, pure wives..!!
    Hypocrites..!!
    And purity should be of heart and soul, not body. A women is capable to love as many times as she gets an opportunity. And if still virginity is that much important to you..maybe you have no faith in the power of love.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -gundo nemalili (07/19/15)
  • i think losing virginity before marriage is a big deal. Virginity dignifies ones marriage and if you are not virgin you cannot be brave enough to tell your partner that you are not.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Soumen Maity (06/15/15)
  • @prithviraj.
    Sorry if I spell it incorrectly. The thing about prostitution you said that girls play 'love game' when they are teenagers. But at that moment there is always a boy present too and that time he also loose his virginity. So why we always blame girls about loosing virginity all time. Why we can't simply accept that we are also to be blamed. That's define how much we Indians are mentally immature.

    Please if I say something wrong you all are welcome to correct me.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Soumen Maity (06/15/15)
  • I think conclusion of this topic depends on the type of marriage: Arrange or Love.

    If arrange then yes it could be a big deal as Indians are not so much modern countries like USA or UK. Because according to Indians virginity defines character of a women. So it could be a problem, but not always when the groom is mentally mature and has ability to understand what was the cause that girl is not virgin- was she raped or she is in relationship. Then it is not big deal then.

    2. In case of love marriage. I mean not just love real love, it is not a big deal. Because in that case couples will have mutual understanding and compromising.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -rano bhau (06/07/15)
  • Guys, Now a days Virginity is close to impossible hahaha, our generation is changing partners like clothes, they do not ask for virginity at that time, but when it comes to marriage ?? R U VIRGIN, as if buying a new audi car, shit man.

    Dear friends beware , for a knowledge western cultures live in relationship law states, girl living with men will be his property partner in case he dies.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -ishwar (05/22/15)
  • Virginity is a power of humen being but he is compolsory in the marriege for the childrens.it a not bad idea but to loose before the marriege it is crime of humen righets. That peoples are so dengurous in society.
    Thank you
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -Rohit (05/13/15)
  • Well losing virginity before marriage is not a big deal. What do we do when we have a desire to eat ? we eat, desire to play ? we play, similarly a desire to have sex is pretty normal. But just like we make sure we eat healthy and play safe like wise are sex should be safe.

    But at the same time I will like to add if a virgin guy expects his bride to be virgin there is nothing wrong in it, it's just his choice.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -sweety (05/12/15)
  • In our society when a husband slaps a woman all thought that wife must have done something wrong similarly when a wife slaps a husband all say how rude is the woman

    Always the blame is towards the girls ....


    Virginity is a word which can be questioned to a woman always??

    Every one wants a life partner who will understand him / her ,n trust should b there in between. Just think whether it is love marriage or arrange marriage when we came to know that my partner is not virgin then at that moment we could not be able to accept easily.
    As there is no option so we have to adjust with that.
    But the bridge of trust that going to be built is sonehow stopped there..

    Now a days youngsters r not thinking before crossing the limits and the trend is going on that it is not a big deal because everyone faces the same situation.

    But loosing virginity before marriage is not good for the person who does for the surrounding he created after that and finally for the society also.

    Although we r advanced enough but still it is a big deal.
  • RE: Losing Virginity Before Marriage is a big deal -sweety (05/12/15)
  • In our society when a husband slaps a woman all thought that wife must have done something wrong similarly when a wife slaps a husband all say how rude is the woman

    Always the blame is towards the girls ....


    Virginity is a word which can be questioned to a woman always??

    Every one wants a life partner who will understand him / her ,n trust should b there in between. Just think whether it is love marriage or arrange marriage when we came to know that my partner is not virgin then at that moment we could not be able to accept easily.
    As there is no option so we have to adjust with that.
    But the bridge of trust that going to be built is sonehow stopped there..

    Now a days youngsters r not thinking before crossing the limits and the trend is going on that it is not a big deal because everyone faces the same situation.

    But loosing virginity before marriage is not good for the person who does for the surrounding he created after that and finally for the society also.

    Although we r advanced enough but still it is a big deal.